make a connection that lasts… Couples Counseling in Charlotte

Feeling distant from your partner? Tired of the same argument that never seems to resolve? Feel misunderstood in your relationship? Don’t feel heard? You’ve been hurt too many times and can’t seem to build the trust to love again? Frustrated by loneliness of a withdrawn and distant spouse? You can’t seem to reach them no matter how hard you try. Maybe your partner seems to criticize or attack you so often it’s overwhelming and you feel like you can’t do anything right, you’re always playing defense or feel like you’re not good enough.

Marriage and Couples Counseling in Charlotte Can Help!

Imagine finding the connection you’ve always been looking for. Having confidence that when a conflict comes up you can stop it quickly and turn it into a point of connection. You feel more in tune as a couple. You’re feeling closer to your partner, both emotionally and physically. You’re turning long-standing conflicts into opportunities for connection. You understand the underlying emotional needs that are getting in-between your relationship. You’re breaking patterns that cause you to feel alone and distant from your partner. You’re creating unique, fresh ways to nourish your love for years to come.

I provide Couples Counseling and Individual relationship coaching to help couples reconnect and build a safe secure bond that lasts. I provide Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples created by Dr. Sue Johnson. EFT is one of the most successful couples treatments you can get for your relationship and marriage.

You were created to connect! Invest in your relationship and create a connection that will last.

What is EFT couples therapy in Charlotte, NC?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a type of couples therapy that focuses on improving the emotional connection between partners. EFT is based on the premise that most relationship problems stem from a breakdown in emotional communication and understanding between partners. The goal of EFT is to help partners understand and validate each other's emotions, and to help them communicate those emotions in a more effective and positive way.

EFT is based on attachment theory, which suggests that humans have a natural need for emotional bonds with others. When these bonds are threatened or disrupted, it can lead to emotional distress and relationship problems.

The EFT model of couples therapy involves three main stages:

1. De-escalation: In the first stage, the therapist helps the couple identify the negative patterns of interaction that are causing emotional distress. These patterns often involve blame, criticism, and defensiveness. The therapist helps the couple to see how these patterns are contributing to their problems, and works with them to find ways to de-escalate these negative interactions.

2. Restructuring: In the second stage, the therapist helps the couple to restructure their interactions in a more positive and effective way. This involves teaching them new communication skills, such as active listening and expressing emotions in a non-threatening way. The therapist also helps the couple to understand each other's emotional needs and to find ways to meet those needs in a more positive way.

3. Consolidation: In the final stage, the therapist helps the couple to consolidate their new relationship patterns and build a more secure emotional connection. This involves helping the couple to identify and overcome any remaining obstacles to their emotional connection, such as unresolved past traumas or ongoing stressors in their lives.

What Couples are saying...

“Josh is one of the most gifted professionals I’ve experienced”

“Thanks to Josh, my husband & I are able to replenish our marriage every week & build healthier habits that will last a life time. Growing up, we both came from unsafe & unhappy environments…& it caused us to question our own worth. Working with Josh has helped us in more ways than one! We call him our Saint! With his extensive experience & knowledge, Josh has helped us become closer in love & happier individuals all around! Our life is beautiful now!”

“We had seen a few counselors before we met Josh. By far, Josh has been the most helpful. Some of the other therapist were hard to connect with but we felt an instant connection with Josh as he’s very relatable.”