Let your fears chase you!
After my last blog “Begin With The End in Mind” I hope you have a little more clarity with what you want in life. As you’re narrowing your aim on the things you want: love, a meaningful career, good relationships with your spouse, kids, and friends, etc. Let’s start thinking about what will help motivate you to get there.
Usually, when you start getting honest about what you really want, there are some fears that start to pop up. Our greatest hopes and dreams are also often tied to our greatest fears. “What if I fail”, “I wont be good at that”, “I’ll go broke”, “I’ll be humiliated”, “If they really knew me they’d never love me”, “They’ll see right through me”, “I won’t have much to offer”.
Think about the things that might happen if you don’t go for the things you want. Your marriage may end up being miserable, you’ll be alone, you’re a critical dad or mom, your kids aren’t doing well, you’re bored and hate your job, poor, homeless, an alcoholic, depressed, anxious, dead inside, really go all the way with this… lay it all out there.
Let this image of the crumby life you could have or the miserable person you could become drive you. Let it chase you to your goals and what you want. If you don’t go for what you want you could end up there and I don’t think you want that.
Have an image of your greatest desires and dreams in front of you and your biggest fears behind you chasing you toward your dreams. No, I’m not saying avoid your fears, I’m saying quite the opposite. Confront them and put them behind you! Maybe you’ve been avoiding things you’re afraid of or things you don’t feel competent at but your want more! Counseling can help you sort out your fears and greatest desires and help you figure out how to get there.
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson Lays this concept out perfectly in his lecture “Slaying the Dragon Within Us”. I’ve included some of his lectures below.
Josh Burnett is an individual and couples counselor in Charlotte, NC. He has helped many couples, men and women connect with their faith, values, self and others. His big-heart, depth of understanding, and ability to relate, help his clients feel comfortable to share the hard stuff, heal, and grow.
Josh Burnett Counseling, NC
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