Take your man for a walk

I recently came across an article written in the Boston Globe called “The biggest threat to facing middle-age men isn’t smoking or obesity. It’s loneliness. As men grow older, they tend to let their friendships lapse. But there’s still time to do something about it” Digging deeper into the problem of loneliness in men, the author attended conferences on social isolation and came to some conclusions. Men relate differently than women. Male relationships are often centered around doing activities together. Men become closer the more they do things together.

Women tend to approach their man from their own relationship styles and many times it doesn’t work. Try a different approach. Let’s face it, men can be a little emotionally constipated and it can be hard to get much out of them. Trying to sit down face to face with them for coffee or a meal and wanting them to spill their guts is probably a lost cause for many guys. Take your guy for a walk! Richard Schwartz, psychiatrist, said in the article “Researchers have noticed a trend in photographs taken of people interacting. When female friends are talking to each other, they do it face to face. But guys stand side by side, looking out at the world together.”

Studies are showing “walk and talk” therapy to be very fruitful, especially for those that have a hard time expressing themselves. Walking helps us think clearer and process what’s going on for us and maybe men feel like they can run away if the conversation gets too serious (I’m kidding, but there’s probably a little truth to it.) Take interest in some of the things your man likes. Go hit some range balls with him, play tennis, pickleball, hike, do something with him. I bet you’ll get a little more out of him than you would across the table. Stand by him and take your man for walk!

And guys, if you’re reading this… take your gal for a walk. She’ll feel more connected to you and you’ll feel more loved and respected by her.

If you need a place to talk about your stuff or you’re a couple that needs a little extra help to connect give me a call or text 704-916-9578 or email info@joshburnettcounselingnc.com

Josh Burnett is an individual and couples counselor in Charlotte, NC. He has helped many couples, men and women connect with their faith, values, Self and Others. His big-heart, depth of understanding, and ability to relate help his clients feel comfortable to share the hard stuff, heal, and grow.

Josh Burnett Counseling, NC
3315 Springbank Ln ste 106 Charlotte, NC